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a quick story about losing someone's trust.
we had made friends with a traveling preacher and some of his church folks... they'd been by our home several times, about once a year, and would spend a few nights and we'd invite some neighbors and friends over for a bible study. whew... these folks could sing and strum some guitars. we supported their business. I'd spent thousands over the mail and internet.
they lived a long way from us and they had invited us to visit. we were planning the visit in order to visit their church and check out their area as a possible new location for us
on their last visit things fell apart... the good relationship died a fast death... the wife and I have evaluated the visit several times. wondering why things fell apart so fast.
we cancelled our visit. (it would have been a very expensive trip and clearly we didn't need to move there!)
we had no good answer to why they changed their stripes, or let us see the real them! (unless God was sending us a warning!) .
recently another couple asked us if we had been involved in the marijuana haze? we don't get asked that often.... the answer was "no."
but it brought back the memory... the preacher and his crowd had asked us...that same question.. (maybe we look like dopers!)
when we told them "no, we hadn't been partakers." the preacher and his crew didn't believe us... and told us so... we knew they had dabbled in the drug scene. it was not a secret... they had previously disclosed it.
we were their friends anyhow.
but they could not accept the fact that we were telling them the truth...
they could no longer trust us!! we had lost their trust!! as the weekend disintegrated there were other issues that developed, but none made sense as to why.
it's been several years. a couple of years ago, I wrote them, a couple of times and forgave them, and apologized for any offense I may have done.
I got no response.
but, if I would lie to them, (in their viewpoint) how could they trust us? and my wife lie too! how could they associate with us?
they were so sure we were dopers... 3 men and 3 ladies, the church leadership, were so sure we were not telling them the truth...
from my viewpoint - disappointment, but better to see the stripes sooner than later.
I've got to sharpen my ability to discern. if(as) things hit the the cwapper, trust and the ability to discern someone's heart will be mighty important!
we had made friends with a traveling preacher and some of his church folks... they'd been by our home several times, about once a year, and would spend a few nights and we'd invite some neighbors and friends over for a bible study. whew... these folks could sing and strum some guitars. we supported their business. I'd spent thousands over the mail and internet.
they lived a long way from us and they had invited us to visit. we were planning the visit in order to visit their church and check out their area as a possible new location for us
on their last visit things fell apart... the good relationship died a fast death... the wife and I have evaluated the visit several times. wondering why things fell apart so fast.
we cancelled our visit. (it would have been a very expensive trip and clearly we didn't need to move there!)
we had no good answer to why they changed their stripes, or let us see the real them! (unless God was sending us a warning!) .
recently another couple asked us if we had been involved in the marijuana haze? we don't get asked that often.... the answer was "no."
but it brought back the memory... the preacher and his crowd had asked us...that same question.. (maybe we look like dopers!)
when we told them "no, we hadn't been partakers." the preacher and his crew didn't believe us... and told us so... we knew they had dabbled in the drug scene. it was not a secret... they had previously disclosed it.
we were their friends anyhow.
but they could not accept the fact that we were telling them the truth...
they could no longer trust us!! we had lost their trust!! as the weekend disintegrated there were other issues that developed, but none made sense as to why.
it's been several years. a couple of years ago, I wrote them, a couple of times and forgave them, and apologized for any offense I may have done.
I got no response.
but, if I would lie to them, (in their viewpoint) how could they trust us? and my wife lie too! how could they associate with us?
they were so sure we were dopers... 3 men and 3 ladies, the church leadership, were so sure we were not telling them the truth...
from my viewpoint - disappointment, but better to see the stripes sooner than later.
I've got to sharpen my ability to discern. if(as) things hit the the cwapper, trust and the ability to discern someone's heart will be mighty important!
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