elderly folks that you care about.

[rockriver]

I started to add this to the baby mommy thread... but didn't want to distract that thread.

years ago 2 relatives needed additional care and went to an assisted living home.
this made me begin to make plans and idea of how i'd deal with shtf and getting to relatives and taking care of them.
both would have been assets if shtf and more importantly I care about them..

on another survivalist board, yeatd ago, I posed the question - have you made plans to take care of the relatives that are in an assisted living facility?
have you prepped for them? have you made plans to go get them? do you have meds for them? and similar questions....
a popular poster did two things...
1. he posted take your gun and shoot them in the head.
2. he took my post and added it to his posts about euthanasia and killing off the sick.
we exchanged some unpleasant emails, and that son of a biscuit eater aint welcome at my campfire in good times or bad.


the rest of the story. one of relatives eventually passed away.. the other recovered their strength and returned to their home and has been living alone, self sufficient, for years. now the remaining relative needs additional help and we are making some changes to obtain the additional assistance. part of the current plans include the relative moving to a location that is only minutes away from me and not hours away!!

so... i'll repeat my questions posted years ago...
what are your plans for those who need additional assistance now.. they are in an assisted living facility, or live alone, or have "a sitter"
my question relates to those that "you care about" have you got a bedroom allocated for them? plans for their meds? will you go get them? or can they drive to you? have you discussed the prospects with them? have you prepositioned clothes or other items they'll need? are you prepping quietly, and hoping that
they don't show up? if you have plans to go shoot them...... uh... if you don't mind. just ignore this thread or lie and don't tell it here... or just say, it's too bad, but they live too far away, or something vague...

[jimmycthemd]

This is from the past as both of our older relatives have passed away but for the record, this was our situation and what we did when we moved to Georgia 20 years ago.

Both of our mothers were in their late 70's/early 80's. Mine lived in Florida and hers lived in Indianna. We converted our basement family room into a two bedroom 'dorm' with a bathroom. We accumulated the female 'necessities' for the elderly and some clothes as well. We let them know that, if things got bad, they'd always have someplace to stay.

For my mother, I was the closest 'child' as she was in Florida and all my siblings are in upstate N.Y., so she had written up a limited power of attourney making me the decision maker in case of medical or other emergency. It was filed with the court and copies given to her doctors. My wife and I discussed and agreed upon what circumstances would percipitate our going to get her and how it would be done.

For my wife's mother, she had another son and daughter in the same town. The daughter wasn't exactly attentive to her needs. Her son and his wife were. They made similar arrangements as we did in case of an emergency.

A lesson I learned through all of this is sometimes you (I) misjudge people. My wife's sister-in-law and I never got along. I found her crass and very abrasive, using language that would make a sailor blush. She seemed to belittle everyone that wasn't like her, including my wife's mother. When my wife's mother had to go into assisted living and then a nursing home, she surprised the h3ll outta me. She was there EVERY weekend doing my mother-in-law's laundry, taking her to church and grocery shopping. My mother-in-law had very little to no money so she wasn't sucking up for an inheritance. Under that crass, abrasive exterior was a heart of gold that I'd overlooked. I thanks God that she was close by to help in her times of need.

[EX121]

Having cared for my wife's mother for awhile when she was stage 3-4 Alzheimer. I can say that even when she was really out of it she could do simple tasks. My wife does a lot of knitting so she had Mom roll lot of yarn balls. Mom also helped fold cloths after the laundry was dry etc.
the biggest problem was she would like to wander during the day time so it was important to keep a close eye on her.
During a PAW I think she could have helped do simple cooking chores and such like.
since she passed on we don't have any older folks, but are becoming that ourselves.