retreat group meetings protocol

[rockriver]

i've wondered how leadership would develop...?
how meetings would be run?
what management styles would be in place?
anyway..
i thought this video was helpful in my search for info.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TrFvAiQDuEo&noredirect=1

from one of america's major cities.
if i knew how to post a smiley face... i'd put one here!

[Lowdown3]

It's unfortunate but their are some knuckleheads out there that watch too much TV and are too into "drama" that think a survival group is like the retards shown in the TV show "The Colony."

A real survival group is nothing like that. Don't do what you are supposed to do, don't communicate, don't pull your weight, don't be a team player, don't be or show thankfulness for what others are doing for you, be just a "taker", don't attempt to make any real relationships with the other parties and yes you will have problems in a real group.

Like most things related to survival- a real group is WORK. Just saying the trite expression "Man, you know I'll be there for you all when the time comes" means NOTHING when you aren't doing anything NOW. 99% of the time when you hear that, you can pretty much count OUT that person, at least that's been my experience.

I'm supposed to believe that after TSHTF you are going to climb heaven and earth to group up with the others when trivial things keep you from doing it NOW?

[Matt In Oklahoma]

I've been to meetings that were this bad and worse and some that were so organized that little was accomplished.
This comes back to LD3s working together. If you work together, build something together and train together many things will work out where it doesn't reach this point.
We will never all agree, we may not even like each other sometimes but the common goal is the focus or preparing and having spent a lot of time doing things together builds relationships that will harbor respect, love and cooperation. I'm not so silly and conceited that I think everyone likes me that we meet with. I step on toes sometimes but I try and make it right in my actions and words and it's more about being passionate than always right.

Sometimes the togetherness is imposed even if not needed. For instance Team Karen might not need me to harvest honey but has me come over anyway so we can work together. Having spent the time with them I would never disrespect them or their opinions in this fashion shown on here when we meet because I know them.
Being loud doesn't mean being right and some cultures have ignored this. Having equal rights doesn't mean getting the last word and some cultures have ignored this. Maturity (not age) plays into the equation of effectiveness which is evident here on the video. Pride can be a double edged sword too. Too much pride in oneself and this video emerges cutting the wrong way but pride in the team and goal will cut thru the red tape for progression.

Organized meetings, well there isn't any one solution because the dynamics and people are all different and some respond well to other things. A true leader will figure it out and things will change as it progresses too. I believe strongly in the progression of a true group because in the military we are forced together by circumstance but it took awhile before actually being what I considered a team.